Bringing on the challenge of marriage is no light matter but it can be if we choose to look at it through a different lens. A sense of humor and the ability to take a closer look at yourself no matter how brilliant, right, outwardly successful you may be are key ingredients to an enriched marriage.
What I have found very helpful lately is instead of trying to make my husband, Derek, do something I would like him to do. I under function in that area- meaning I just don't do it. I have found that all the nagging in the world changes nothing. However, if you get on with what you need to- magically it gets done- it may not be exactly what you would like but if you can lower your anxiety it won't really matter anyway. (Apparently Derek has been under functioning on paying the bills- guess I need to pay those)
I am blessed to be married to such a loving, caring, talented and hard working man as Derek and if I remember to focus on what I need to change about me I can see that. If I don't I begin to resent him for those things that do naturally irritate me. In a larger perspective that I am sometimes aware of and other times not I am grateful and excited about our life together and what it may hold. What we will do as a family and what we will do alone. The future is awaiting us, the present is here and the past is no longer as haunting as it has been.
with love and honor to the most important man in my life
