Connecting up the family tree is probably the most important move you can make to help you mature, relate in healthy ways to others, and live a deeper life. It will give you the ability to CHOOSE what you want for your life and will benefit generations to come in the same way. It’s difficult to move forward with your life in a healthy way when there is unfinished business in your family of origin. RELATE to your parents as much as you can as an adult, showing them who you really are, though it may be hard. It often feels very uncomfortable and quite unnatural but if you take this step it has the potential to create innate changes in the way you relate in all your other relationships. This process is always a work in progress. Starting this process helps you take responsibility for your role in the family, lessens your defensiveness, inspires humility and truly opens your eyes to all people. This is what makes it Biblical for me. It is a process that enables me to truly hear from GOD because I am more open. Connecting with in-laws is much easier when you understand your own family better. You are less likely to take things personally as you understand what fuels behavior. You begin to see anxiety at work in family members and are able at times to step out of the reactivity of the situation and diffuse the cycle by changing your behavior. You have the power to change no-one. You have the power to change your interaction with family members and in-laws and in so doing create the potential to change your relationships and your SELF in the process. Be challenged.